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  1. LeGnosis Just Your Average Stoner

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    Has anyone ever had any problems with sibling rivalry? Its destroying my life when I visit my parents. I hate him so bad. Really need someone to talk to x
    LeGnosis, Dec 21, 2010
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    im not a parent (of a living child anyway) but me and my sister have always had a rivalry. shes mad that i grew up with my dad and she didnt, and im mad that i grew up with him and she didnt lol hes an alcoholic and my childhood was far from a good one. she still blames me to this day and holds a grudge for shit i did when i was 3.
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    I was googling Doom 3 walkthroughs, and something that someone had specifically searched for came up. I can't mention what it is but I will say it was illegal and very VERY sick. Three years on and i can't sit in a room with him without feeling like I'm sat in a room with a very sick person. I want to know what happened to my brother to make him think it was ok to whack off to something like that.
    No, I don't want that, I just want him to fuck off and die.
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    roll up a fatty get together with him light it up and just talk about it hear what he has to say and then tell him ur feelings then find a point at which u both can agree on and then drop it and try to keep a good relationship with him best thing i can think of fatty is optional of course if he doesnt smoke....
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    i might be reading too much into that phrase but if I'm not I am very sorry x
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    I am both a parent and a sibling...it happens no matter what...best you can do it just step back and give it time and space took me and my sister 30 years to get along...good luck man
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    He doesn't smoke unfortunately but thanks x
    LeGnosis, Dec 21, 2010
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    Thankyou, its nice to know there are others. This is really getting to me.
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    you read right, thanks

    also, if it involves a female and a cup or something along those lines, u sure he used whatever it was to wack it or might he possible have been showing someone something disgusting. you know how guys are
    mazarxnl, Dec 21, 2010
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    LOL I wish it had been 2 girls 1 cup, hilarious.
    But no, it wasn't something that could be funny, in no way shape or form. I'm not one of those twats that thinks porn is immoral, everyones looked at it. But this was not normal porn, not even something that you'd think oh maybe shes just sensitive and thinks its just sick because its a bit strong, e.g play rape. It was something really really bad. We got along so well as kids, but this was so heinous it stopped us speaking for three years. When I told my parents about it they were so shocked they didn't believe me, and I was treated like a dog for about a week afterwards.
    It really hurts that nobody believed me. I should've called the cops on the fucker.
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    oh, in that case....hes got issues and should seek therapy, also he needs his dna on file. go give urs. if he does something like that seeing how he gets off on it theyll have urs and itll give them a lead as to who it could be. sorry man, i dunno what to say to something like that except he needs help. theres no real advice anyone here could give u. u arent the one with the problem and i think anyone in their right mind would agree that u have done nothing wrong in the way you feel about all this
    mazarxnl, Dec 21, 2010
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    legnosis... what you are describing is not sibling rivalry. depending on just how depraved the content was that you discovered he may or may not need professional help. professional being the key word. find a therapist/ counselor that you feel comfortable talking with and get it off your chest with someone who could potentionally guide you on the next step.

    ps. just because he looked at it doesn't neccessarily mean he is actually into it. there is an old thread around here somewhere where a member was troubled by their own erotic thoughts. they'd not acted on them but still were bothered by them. almost seems as though you've convicted your brother based on what may have been a one-time only thought. but having a relative with twisted thoughts is something you may just have to deal with. ther'es an old saying about being able to choose your friends but family is chosen for you
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    my fiancee's brother has demented thoughts and i just had to get past them. altho, next time he beats a dog in front of me i will stomp his ass again
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    Thankyou, really. I felt like I was such a bitch for thinking how sick this was, partly due to how my parents reacted, it was nightmareish. Its nice to hear someone clarify this was a fucked up thing. i've tried speaking to a counsellor about it twice during sessions of my own, and I'm not sure whether it was because it was my own session, but both times they agreed with was fucked up and then just changed the subject. Weird.
    As for not being able to choose my family, god I wish I could. I feel ever so umcomfortable at home now I know hes here. Its ruined my christmas yet again. it may have been just the one time he indulged himself, but with the material it was once is enough for me to hate him for the rest of his life. I just have to figure out a way to bite my tongue around him for my parents sake I guess. I'm quite quick tempered sadly.

    i am unfamiliar with this dna on file thing but it sounds fascinating. Again a big thankyou for saying I haven't done anything wrong, I'm actually sobbing like a big baby right now about this. Its just everyone kept telling me i was a liar and that I'm disgustingly jealous.
    During an arguement with my brother today my dad jumped right in and crushed me, we were arguing over a tshirt which is a dumb thing to argue about. but he came in and said there was no point to me having it because it would be too small for me, then he looked me up and down and said he just had to be brutal. I'm not even sure what that means.
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    i think he called u fat.......wow man sorry to say this but sounds like your family is pretty dysfunctional. if he ever does to someone what that site showed they are goin to be pretty upset about it. but it also means because of their lack of......i dunno the word at the moment someone could get hurt because they failed to listen and do something about it

    as for the dna thing, im not sure of a way u could go about giving it to the cops. if u tell them hey i want my dna on file because my brother has demented thoughts about rape theyll probably pull him in right then and there and take it based on suspicion of another unsolved rape case they may have.
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    does ur brother know that u saw the site and what u think about it? i mean, have u ever talked to him about it?
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    I know, I HATE it because I'm not used to questioning them but I know right from fucking wrong.

    Really scary thing is, hes a big fucking guy. And he has serious anger problems as it is. During an argument he hit me to the floor infront of my parents and they didn't even blink. But they freak the fuck out if I fight him back. They've never taken this seriously, I think its just really bad denial. He nearly choked osmeone to death back at school and they bought him fucking karate lessons and weights, wtf?
    if he ever did do any of the stuff he'd been looking at, I'd never forgive myself. But neither would my parents.
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    He knows, he told my parents that even if he had looked at that stuff it was only because his friends told him to.
    Unless his friends are fucking deranged that is impossible. I love linking my friends to silly shit like goatse and 2 girls 1 cup, but not THAT sort've stuff.
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    And yeah, for an obese daughter with body dismorphia to hear this from her dad was crippling, and its not the first time.
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    Whats body dismorphia? and ur a girl???????? now i see why u have such an issue with it. personally rapists just make me sick. but hitting u like that and ur parents did nothin? thats just fucked up. sounds like they are scared of him
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