My girlfriend...

Midnight_toker

We have been together for 3 and a half months now, and I thought everything was absolutly amazing... I mean she was telling me she wanted to always be with me, she said she missed me constantly when we were apart. The sex was out of this world. We were happy just being together, we had similar interests, she had a cool family. She said she wanted to be here for me through my hard times, if you read the thread about my mom that is a piece of the story.

Then today I take a bus 3 hours to come see her on my day off of work. We hang out and everything is great! Then on the drive home she is acting a bit off, and I couldnt figure it out. But she got over it as she drove me home, and we started acting like normal, we left each other with her asking me to wright her a love poem!

She calls me when she is in bed.... She says she has a question, I say ask away!

She asks me if I would be mad at her if she broke up with me because my problems are too much for her.... I told her she is number 1 and she need to look out for herself before anyone else. We talk more she is saying shes not sure, she doesnt know. I am DEVISTATED.... She was the one good thing I had going in my life....

She then calls me back later and tells me she wants to be with me but we need to talk more because she isnt sure....

I dont hate her at all, in fact I even understand.....

But the one thing I am scared of is being alone in life, but I always end up that way.

Im sorry to write another sob story to you, but I need to get this all out, and this is the only place I feel I can do that.

Im going crazy right now, I dont know what to do...

My whole body and mind hurt right now. She was all I had left...

edit: Forgot to mention that I quit selling weed, and took a smoking break for her... Im starting to wonder if I just wasted my time, or if relaitionships are worth the effort.

likem

First IMO I think you should take some of your power back from her. You’re giving her all the power here. Whatever SHE wants, whatever SHE decides; that’s just nonsense and whether you know it or not your willingness to submit to HER will is making you less attractive in her eyes.

All that stuff about how she doesn’t know if she can deal with your problems is crap IMO. There are guys in this world who lead way more screwed up lives than you that have chicks eating out of their hand (girls are dumb sometimes.) I think she is loosing interest in you because she doesn’t see you as a challenge. You’re easy to have and easy to hold on to. She never has to worry about loosing you to another girl and as crazy as it seems spells boredom and disaster.

I make theses assumptions about you because you said “I’m scared of being alone, but I always end up that way” I would bet you a million dollars if I had it, that she knows your scared of being alone too. Being needy and desperate will get you nothing but hurt for the rest of your life.

And you may not want to hear this but I would be willing to bet that your relationship with your mother has a lot to do with why you are afraid of abandonment and being alone.

If I were you I would give HER something to think about. Make HER wonder where she stands with you or how you feel about her. If you plant the seed of uncertainty in her I suspect you will see a change in her interest in you. But if you’re not convincing about it she won’t buy it.

Are these games? Sure. If it were me I’d say “OK, cool” and find another chick that is not so quick to run when things get uncomfortable. But to each their own.


Don't worry things will be OK even if she does leave.

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Admire

Yeah......Be the most valuable guy......Let her know that its her loss if you aren't together..

ShiVersBlood

OMG she is so selfish you need a better new one

THE_ONE_AND_ONLY_R_I_C

My wife of 10 years broke up with me after a few weeks. She was entering grad school and did not want the pressure of a relationship etc etc.

I was relentless.

We have been happily married for 10 years next week.

Set your sights. Knwo what your after. Go for it with no reserve or end.

The_God_Of_Bong

I know where you're coming from man, women are nuts. The more you think that this is the end, that this is it, you're a lone for ever... the more it's going to end up that way. Just keep a positive state of mind (as hard as that might seem) and you'll end up alright, the most important part of breaking up is not letting you think yourself into the grave. That was one person in billions. And a smoking break? Shhhiiittt. That's the first thing i'd change if I was feeling that shitty We all got problems dude, and the point of being together is sharing all the good and bad times, and if she can't deal with that then I guess that's just the way she goes.

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anniecclancy

GOD!!!! You deserve SO much better!!!! Quit wasting your time w/ her, find someone you WANT to be with, and can just be yourself. Slip out the back Jack!! DUMP HER!


anniexoxo

Maryjanemama

If she can't accept you the way you are, you are better off without her. A true love would not pick and choose what parts of you to love.

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